Reaching out for help is hard. Loved ones and friends may tell you that your problem is not that bad or that there are worse things in life, but deep down you know that your quality of life could be so much more.
Julie St.Onge
If You're Struggling You're not
I have been there! Struggles and challenges have left me, at times, feeling as though I would never find my smile again. I forgot what my laugh sounded like. Not the fake one I can produce when I need to, but the one I can't stop or control when something is hysterical. I came to a place in life where I was not willing to accept good enough or not that bad. I wanted to live fully and wholly knowing who I am and how to be in healthy relationship.
Going on a journey to heal is scary. I had fear that others would judge me for reaching out. Some mental health helpers were not equip to understand the complexities of emotional trauma or able to recognize its hallmark signs. Others wanted desperately to help but did not have the tools or resources themselves.
Eventually, I found some amazing healers and fell in love with a process of guiding others through a framework of trauma support and healing.
I discovered Brainspotting and quickly realized this expedites healing for individuals that recognize their trauma but are powerless to stop their triggers. I use this process with couples who are unable to connect after traumatic events or having gone through disclosure and wanting to reintegrate connection.
If you have been stuck and not able to heal I have hope for you and hope is a powerful thing. Don't give up on yourself and your brain, body, and soul's ability to heal no matter how complex the journey may be.
brainspotting & Services
What is Brainspotting?
Difference Between Brainspotting, EMDR, Hypnosis, and SE
Difference Between Brainspotting, EMDR, Hypnosis, and SE
Brainspotting reveals a client’s unprocessed traumas through fixed eye positions. Specific eye positions each link to their own “brainspot,” an area of the mind that retains thoughts and emotions. Clients fixate on troubling brainspots to uncover hidden mental challenges. Brainspotting a relatively new way to treat many traumas and mental challenges. In addictions, brainspotting is used to expose hidden wounds that trigger the habit. For this article, we’ll highlight the role of brainspotting in addiction recovery.
Difference Between Brainspotting, EMDR, Hypnosis, and SE
Difference Between Brainspotting, EMDR, Hypnosis, and SE
Difference Between Brainspotting, EMDR, Hypnosis, and SE
Brainspotting, EMDR, SE, and hypnosis cause similar brain states in clients. However, each method specializes differently for each client’s unique needs. Brainspotting (BSP) allows clients to guide themselves through their own subconscious or deeper brain layers. They choose what issue they’d like to start with. Then, they explore in and around it with only light guidance by their therapist. This method uses fixated, steady eye positions. Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing
(EMDR) also tackles client’s deep traumas. The therapist over stimulates the client’s senses to reduce the emotional weight of the chosen issue. EMDR usually uses rapid, repetitive eye motions. Hypnosis again takes on the powerful issues stored in a client’s mind. However, the therapist has a more active role by creating the hypnotic state for the client. They tell the client what to focus on, acting as the main direction for sessions.
Somatic experiencing (SE) uses small doses of trauma-related triggers to guide the client’s journey. The therapist guides the client by alternating between comforting and triggering experiences. This process trains a healthier mind-body response. EMDR, SE, and hypnosis each tend to be more structured types of mind-body therapy. These are great for clients who feel comfort from using very specific steps. BSP programs are ideal in addiction treatment when a client needs more freedom to confront their traumas. You may find that with more control over your own therapy, you’ll have a more meaningful and rewarding experience.
What Clients Say About Brainspotting
Difference Between Brainspotting, EMDR, Hypnosis, and SE
What Clients Say About Brainspotting
The majority of clients that try brainspotting find it extremely effective in relieving trauma and stress symptoms. Most describe it as life changing, fast acting, innovative when other therapies have failed, healing, peace producing, and a highly intuitive healing process.
Clients who have tried EMDR often find this modality more effective and a gentler process.
This can be coupled with other therapies for those looking to add to their current plan.
Who is Brainspotting Effective For
Couples Coaching Disclosure, Restoration, Repair & Clarity
What Clients Say About Brainspotting
Brainspotting might be a good fit to work in tandem with your other therapies. In some programs, you might find yourself in BSP as you engage in CBT or DBT. Brainspotting can help recovering individuals if they:
- Had trouble reaching a significant breakthrough in previous therapies.
- Are entering addiction therapy for the first time.
- Feel intense anxiety, depression, or other emotions that don’t improve.
- Have relapsed on multiple occasions due to overwhelming situations.
- Eating Disorders
- Trauma
- Anxiety
- Sexual Assault
- Addiction
- Unwanted Habits
- Performance Anxiety
- Social Anxiety
Betrayal Trauma & Addiction Individual Coaching
Couples Coaching Disclosure, Restoration, Repair & Clarity
Couples Coaching Disclosure, Restoration, Repair & Clarity
We offer a host of support to hurting partners who have been betrayed or find themselves struggling to rebuild their lives after devastating
relationship events.
We know that you are hurting, confused, frustrated, feeling isolated, rejected, abandoned, and lost. Let us help you find your way back.
Learning how to care for yourself and all your parts will be key. Trauma level reduction is the first step. Once your level is stable we assist in helping you listen to the truth that is deep inside whispering and calling for attention.
Sessions are 55 minutes over zoom. That time is used towards establishing a comprehensive plan based on your goals.
We provide root cause analysis with each session, looking for the core issues and possible contributing factors. Identifying these is key to developing a thorough treatment plan.
Brainspotting, cognitive reframing, trauma processing, boundary building, and trigger awareness are some of the tools and support services we offer. We assists in working through difficult relationships and creating safety with abusive ones.
Our greatest hope is to see our clients thriving and believe that
they are enough!
"Loving ourselves through the process of owning our story is the bravest thing we will ever do.” Brene Brown
Couples Coaching Disclosure, Restoration, Repair & Clarity
Couples Coaching Disclosure, Restoration, Repair & Clarity
Couples Coaching Disclosure, Restoration, Repair & Clarity
We do offer a disclosure process. The goal here is long term care. Most couples start the process by working individually on recovery while preparing for disclosure. Following disclosure we provide close monitoring and care and design a plan based on your unique needs.
We assist in infidelity repair, assessing safety, assisting in evaluating needs, offering couples brainspotting, and sexual reintegration.
Separation & Divorce
Our Training & Credentials
Our Training & Credentials
One of the hardest things a person can face is separation and possibly divorce.
The fallout can be massive. Family, friends, and community may judge, require more information for approval, or withdraw love and affection. Finances become stressful for most and financial abuse is often associated with these situations.
Though many people stay for the children they are often the ones to be the hardest on their parents due to pain and confusion.
If you can identify with lost community and are facing rebuilding on your own please reach out.
We can assist you in navigating the messy middle and developing a plan to survive the madness.
Our Training & Credentials
Our Training & Credentials
Our Training & Credentials
All of our coaches are APSATS trained & C-SASI trained. We have a few nurses on staff who are also trained in these areas and a licensed therapist.
Some of our coaches are Internal Family Systems trained. Many of us are brainspot trained. Others hold Gottman Credentials. Many of us are attending the Early Recovery Couples Empathy Model Training and use methods in line with this model ERCEM training in 2022.
Time Needed
Our Training & Credentials
Time Needed
Clients usually meet with their coaches weekly or biweekly depending on their goals. The client sets the schedule. We offer a range of flexibility.
Each individual coaching session lasts 55- 60 minutes.
Cost
Cost
Time Needed
Cost varies from $100- $150 depending on which coach you see and the services you are seeking. We each use automated payment systems through Ivy, PayPal, Vcita, Stripe, or Venmo. Sessions we be billed the day of the session.
I was referred to Julie St. Onge by a local therapist who mentioned that she was “her first pick” for who best to help me. I was in deep despair, pain, confusion...personal chaos going on in my life... I hit the jack pot with Julie!
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Meet Our Staff
Julie St.Onge Founder of New England Coaching Services LLC & The New England Betrayal Trauma Conference
BSN Rivier University
Registered Nurse
APSATS Certified
ACC World Coach Institute
cSASI certified
Brainspot Trained
Julie received her Bachelors in Nursing from Rivier University graduating Summa. Her experienced entails working in the following nursing fields over the course of 20 years:
Labor & Delivery, Post Partum, Surgical & Circulating, Walk in Clinic, Surgical Day Center, and School Nursing. Julie attended the World Coach Institute where she obtained her Life Coach Certificate. She is BrainSpot Trained and has completed all phases for certification. Julie is currently working with a few Brainspot trainers to advance the proposed model of brainspotting for hurting couples.
Julie is CSASI certified. Julie also Founder of The New England Betrayal Trauma Conference and New England Coaching Services. She has published Facilitating Disclosures: A Helpful Guide for Clinicians and Finding Healing Through The Betrayal Trauma Model for Covenant Eyes.
Julie heads up a team of eight coaches to facilitate disclosures, assist couples in the stabilization process, aid those struggling with addiction, and provide safety and stabilization for hurting partners.
“ I came to a place in life where I was not willing to accept good enough or not that bad… Don't give up on yourself and your soul's ability to heal no matter how complex the journey may be.”
Julie St.Onge