New England Coaching Services
A Holistic Approach to
Trauma & Life Crisis
Coaching
New England Coaching Services
A Holistic Approach to
Trauma & Life Crisis
Coaching
Quality of life Coaching
UNPREDICTABLE & DIFFICULT LIFE CHANGES cause us to question who we are and how we view the world. Confusion and frustration can be the result. It's often in this darkness and devastation that we find our truest sense of purpose, values, and mission.
Developing a Plan
Become Your Healthiest Self
We take cognitive behavior therapy concepts & dialectical behavior concepts and help you find the balance that works for you!
Processing Thoughts & Emotions
- Building Self-compassion
- Taking Down Black, White & Catastrophic Thinking
- Overcoming Shame & Limiting Beliefs
- Over or Under Identifying Common Humanity
- Changing Negative Self Talk
- Addressing Negativity Bias and Traumas Role
- Moderating Expectations
- Processing Pain & Emotions
- Identifying Roots of Perfectionism
- Improving Self-Care, Self-Neglect, Self-Aware
- Learning to Love Yourself
Boundaries
Boundaries allow us to give and receive love in safe spaces.
We first learn boundaries with ourselves. These can be as simple as getting enough sleep and making healthy choices. Developing boundaries takes time, an understanding of how values shape boundaries, and an awareness that they can change as relationships become healthier or more toxic.
Boundary Work
Like stacking Jenga blocks building boundaries can be complex. Moving one wrong block can create a domino effect of chaos. The situation can get drastically harder without having a way to know what is coming next. In each individuals story, their need for change and boundaries is unique to them. Often times they have tested the blocks which move easily and which ones are stuck and dependent on other blocks.
Boundary work always first involves assessing your safety physically, emotionally and spiritually. In safe relationships boundaries are naturally understood and respected as both people give and receive love and respect. Safe people can tolerate the word no and maybe.
In relationships with power-control issues, mental health conditions, addictions, and varying personality types, boundaries can become extremely complex. We will help you develop a plan in order to get unstuck and establish safety.
Boundary work involves knowing what your needs and values are and using those to create a plan. There is no formula or guarantee which makes boundary work scary. Though there is no formula we know where to start.
When obstacles and blocks are treated a transition can occur toward healthy communication which often reduces the need for firm boundaries. This is not always possible so our highest priority is your well being first and foremost.
What is Betrayal Trauma?
Betrayal trauma occurs when one partner is betrayed by another in a sexual way and/or relational way with the use of pornography and people. This most often stems from an intimacy disorder which causes an attachment rupture between husband and wife. Through coaching partners find a safety plan to consist of: building a healthy sense of self, tools like boundary work, trigger identification and management, fight-flight-freeze regulation techniques, working through the grieving process, and working through the emotional impact. Goals can then be established based on your dreams for your life. You will not be shamed or blamed if things move slowly. The road is long but worth it!
We offer individual and group support for women.
We also offer a Disclosure Process which includes 12-15 coaching sessions prior to Disclosure, four days with two coaches or counselors assisting through Disclosure and Rebuilding, and Couples Work following Disclosure.
The New England Betrayal Trauma Conference
Reconstructing Faith Side by Side
This is a uniquely interactive event involving leaders coming together to support women who have experienced Betrayal Trauma and/or abuse in their intimate relationships. Partners, counselors, coaches, mentors, family members, friends, and those in ministry are encouraged to attend this ONLINE EVENT!
The Betrayal Trauma Model helps explain what a person experiences when she discovers infidelity, affairs, and sex addiction behaviors. The term "partner" refers to those who have been betrayed, deceived, and duped into believing that their significant other was faithful to and honest with them.
SHE Conference
Register Today
Support. Heal. Empower. That’s the resonating message of the SHE Virtual Recovery Summit coming October 5-9, 2020.
This first of its kind event is for WOMEN who struggle with pornography or other unwanted sexual behaviors presented by Living on Purpose and Covenant Eyes. Yes, that's right, for women! I am excited to be presenting alongside 30+ other women sharing their stories, their expertise, and their hope for meaningful recovery.
This 5-day virtual summit will consist of daily pre-recorded sessions, plus daily live expert discussion panels and Facebook Live events. These unique live events will give you the opportunity to ask the experts your own questions and engage in a deeper dialogue on these issues. Daily meet-up events will also take place to give women who struggle the ability to connect with other women in the hope of establishing accountability. This summit is also a unique opportunity for pastors, ministry leaders, and counselors to engage in these issues, including special Q&A and dialogue opportunities.
So join me October 5-9, 2020 and together we can support, heal, and empower each other. Sign up for FREE today:
CHOOSE CONNECTION SUMMIT
I have been invited to speak at The CHOOSE CONNECTION Summit. This is going to be pure content gold for anyone who wants to strengthen the intimacy and connection in their relationships.
With over 30 speakers across 4 days, there's almost certainly going to be some information that makes a big change to your relationships in 2020!
The good news is that as the whole event is online, you can watch it from the comfort of your own home too, so no need to drive miles or book a hotel.
Grab your completely free ticket now here!
Warm Regards,
Julie St.Onge
Living Truth Podcast Release Date July 27th, 2020
Self Worth Means Honoring Yourself with Carol the Coach
Living Truth Podcast Release Date July 27th, 2020
As a Coach working with betrayed partners and sexual addicts Julie gives incredibly practical tools and strategies to help us learn how to self regulate when in distress. She shares both "top down" (starting with the mind to calm the body) and "bottom up" (starting with the body to calm the mind) strategies you won't want to miss in this episode!
Marriage Mastery
Self Worth Means Honoring Yourself with Carol the Coach
Living Truth Podcast Release Date July 27th, 2020
The damaging affect of porn and infidelity on a marriage can feel impossible to overcome. But there is HOPE! The path to redemption and restored intimacy is wrought with blood, sweat and tears. If the addict is truly willing to change and work a recovery program involving complete honesty, and deep excavation of the root issues that dr
The damaging affect of porn and infidelity on a marriage can feel impossible to overcome. But there is HOPE! The path to redemption and restored intimacy is wrought with blood, sweat and tears. If the addict is truly willing to change and work a recovery program involving complete honesty, and deep excavation of the root issues that drove their sexual behavior, a marriage that has been destroyed can be resurrected.
This takes TIME and the betrayed spouse will need to set the pace. They will be disoriented and reeling upon discovery. The range of emotions from shock to deep sadness to rage will be like a rollercoaster. Lots of empathy and support from a betrayal trauma trained professional and a group like Women in the Battle are imperative for healing the wounds of betrayal.
Self Worth Means Honoring Yourself with Carol the Coach
Self Worth Means Honoring Yourself with Carol the Coach
Self Worth Means Honoring Yourself with Carol the Coach
I have come to realize with partners that aside from cultural binds that may hold them in fear of change, there is often a break down with their own relationships with self. I work on this simultaneously with partners.
Self worth means talking nice to yourself, seeing your history and knowing you are trustworthy, respecting your time and
I have come to realize with partners that aside from cultural binds that may hold them in fear of change, there is often a break down with their own relationships with self. I work on this simultaneously with partners.
Self worth means talking nice to yourself, seeing your history and knowing you are trustworthy, respecting your time and feelings, knowing you have innate worth, and believing in your potential. Negative self talk starts at a very young age. Negative film also runs early in life. The pattern can be broken with a dialectical approach of mindfulness training, embracing change, and embracing acceptance.