Reaching out for help is hard. Loved ones and friends may tell you that your problem is not that bad or that there are worse things in life, but deep down you know that your quality of life could be so much more.
Julie St.Onge
If You're Struggling You're not
I have been there! Struggles and challenges have left me, at times, feeling as though I would never find my smile again. I forgot what my laugh sounded like. Not the fake one I can produce when I need to, but the one I can't stop or control when something is hysterical. I came to a place in life where I was not willing to accept good enough or not that bad. I wanted to live fully and wholly knowing who I am and how to be in healthy relationship.
Going on a journey to heal is scary. I had fear that others would judge me for reaching out. Some mental health helpers were not equip to understand the complexities of emotional trauma or able to recognize its hallmark signs. Others wanted desperately to help but did not have the tools or resources themselves.
Eventually, I found some amazing healers and fell in love with a process of guiding others through a framework of trauma support and healing.
I discovered Brainspotting and quickly realized this expedites healing for individuals that recognize their trauma but are powerless to stop their triggers. I use this process with couples who are unable to connect after traumatic events or having gone through disclosure and wanting to reintegrate connection.
If you have been stuck and not able to heal I have hope for you and hope is a powerful thing. Don't give up on yourself and your brain, body, and soul's ability to heal no matter how complex the journey may be.
brainspotting & Services
What is Brainspotting?
Difference Between Brainspotting, EMDR, Hypnosis, and SE
Difference Between Brainspotting, EMDR, Hypnosis, and SE
Brainspotting reveals a client’s unprocessed traumas through fixed eye positions. Specific eye positions each link to their own “brainspot,” an area of the mind that retains thoughts and emotions. Clients fixate on troubling brainspots to uncover hidden mental challenges. Brainspotting a relatively new way to treat many traumas and mental challenges. In addictions, brainspotting is used to expose hidden wounds that trigger the habit. For this article, we’ll highlight the role of brainspotting in addiction recovery.
Difference Between Brainspotting, EMDR, Hypnosis, and SE
Difference Between Brainspotting, EMDR, Hypnosis, and SE
Difference Between Brainspotting, EMDR, Hypnosis, and SE
Brainspotting, EMDR, SE, and hypnosis cause similar brain states in clients. However, each method specializes differently for each client’s unique needs. Brainspotting (BSP) allows clients to guide themselves through their own subconscious or deeper brain layers. They choose what issue they’d like to start with. Then, they explore in and around it with only light guidance by their therapist. This method uses fixated, steady eye positions. Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing
(EMDR) also tackles client’s deep traumas. The therapist over stimulates the client’s senses to reduce the emotional weight of the chosen issue. EMDR usually uses rapid, repetitive eye motions. Hypnosis again takes on the powerful issues stored in a client’s mind. However, the therapist has a more active role by creating the hypnotic state for the client. They tell the client what to focus on, acting as the main direction for sessions.
Somatic experiencing (SE) uses small doses of trauma-related triggers to guide the client’s journey. The therapist guides the client by alternating between comforting and triggering experiences. This process trains a healthier mind-body response. EMDR, SE, and hypnosis each tend to be more structured types of mind-body therapy. These are great for clients who feel comfort from using very specific steps. BSP programs are ideal in addiction treatment when a client needs more freedom to confront their traumas. You may find that with more control over your own therapy, you’ll have a more meaningful and rewarding experience.
What Clients Say About Brainspotting
Difference Between Brainspotting, EMDR, Hypnosis, and SE
What Clients Say About Brainspotting
The majority of clients that try brainspotting find it extremely effective in relieving trauma and stress symptoms. Most describe it as life changing, fast acting, innovative when other therapies have failed, healing, peace producing, and a highly intuitive healing process.
Clients who have tried EMDR often find this modality more effective and a gentler process.
This can be coupled with other therapies for those looking to add to their current plan.
Who is Brainspotting Effective For
Couples Coaching Disclosure, Restoration, Repair & Clarity
What Clients Say About Brainspotting
Brainspotting might be a good fit to work in tandem with your other therapies. In some programs, you might find yourself in BSP as you engage in CBT or DBT. Brainspotting can help recovering individuals if they:
- Had trouble reaching a significant breakthrough in previous therapies.
- Are entering addiction therapy for the first time.
- Feel intense anxiety, depression, or other emotions that don’t improve.
- Have relapsed on multiple occasions due to overwhelming situations.
- Eating Disorders
- Trauma
- Anxiety
- Sexual Assault
- Addiction
- Unwanted Habits
- Performance Anxiety
- Social Anxiety
Betrayal Trauma & Addiction Individual Coaching
Couples Coaching Disclosure, Restoration, Repair & Clarity
Couples Coaching Disclosure, Restoration, Repair & Clarity
We offer a host of support to hurting partners who have been betrayed or find themselves struggling to rebuild their lives after devastating
relationship events.
We know that you are hurting, confused, frustrated, feeling isolated, rejected, abandoned, and lost. Let us help you find your way back.
Learning how to care for yourself and all your parts will be key. Trauma level reduction is the first step. Once your level is stable we assist in helping you listen to the truth that is deep inside whispering and calling for attention.
Sessions are 55 minutes over zoom. That time is used towards establishing a comprehensive plan based on your goals.
We provide root cause analysis with each session, looking for the core issues and possible contributing factors. Identifying these is key to developing a thorough treatment plan.
Brainspotting, cognitive reframing, trauma processing, boundary building, and trigger awareness are some of the tools and support services we offer. We assists in working through difficult relationships and creating safety with abusive ones.
Our greatest hope is to see our clients thriving and believe that
they are enough!
"Loving ourselves through the process of owning our story is the bravest thing we will ever do.” Brene Brown
Couples Coaching Disclosure, Restoration, Repair & Clarity
Couples Coaching Disclosure, Restoration, Repair & Clarity
Couples Coaching Disclosure, Restoration, Repair & Clarity
We do offer a disclosure process. The goal here is long term care. Most couples start the process by working individually on recovery while preparing for disclosure. Following disclosure we provide close monitoring and care and design a plan based on your unique needs.
We assist in infidelity repair, assessing safety, assisting in evaluating needs, offering couples brainspotting, and sexual reintegration.
Separation & Divorce
Our Training & Credentials
Separation & Divorce
One of the hardest things a person can face is separation and possibly divorce.
The fallout can be massive. Family, friends, and community may judge, require more information for approval, or withdraw love and affection. Finances become stressful for most and financial abuse is often associated with these situations.
Though many people stay for the children they are often the ones to be the hardest on their parents due to pain and confusion.
If you can identify with lost community and are facing rebuilding on your own please reach out.
We can assist you in navigating the messy middle and developing a plan to survive the madness.
Group Support
Our Training & Credentials
Separation & Divorce
We offer small groups to support you through trauma, separation, divorce, chronic illness, and life transitions. Please contact Judee Alvarado for group support. judeesbiz@gmail.com
Have you ever identified with this statement?
"If things are required of me I can show up and people would never know the pain I'm in or what I'm going through, but if no one needs me at any given moment I'm flat. I'm flat on my back, not functioning, and unable to pull it together."
If the above statement is true of you, Judee wants you to know that:
"Beating yourself up in the middle of being unable to function is not fair to you. You are doing so much better than you think you are for what you have been through. Giving yourself a break and being gentle with yourself is the starting point. She relates it to a car accident. If you were in traction flat on your back people would be insisting on you resting, but we diminish the pain of a broken heart. "
Judee Alvarado
Our Training & Credentials
Our Training & Credentials
Our Training & Credentials
All of our coaches are APSATS trained & C-SASI trained. We have a few nurses on staff who are also trained in these areas and a licensed therapist.
Some of our coaches are Internal Family Systems trained. Many of us are brainspot trained. Others hold Gottman Credentials. Many of us are attending the Early Recovery Couples Empathy Model Training and use methods in line with this model ERCEM training in 2022.
Time Needed
Time Needed
Our Training & Credentials
Clients usually meet with their coaches weekly or biweekly depending on their goals. The client sets the schedule. We offer a range of flexibility.
Each individual coaching session lasts 55- 60 minutes.
Cost
Time Needed
Cost
Cost varies from $100- $150 depending on which coach you see and the services you are seeking. We each use automated payment systems through Ivy, PayPal, Vcita, Stripe, or Venmo. Sessions we be billed the day of the session.
I have had an amazing experience from the beginning. Julie is an Angel on earth. She gave me all the tools I needed to get better. The group has also been life changing. Brainspotting is unreal. Can’t say enough about it! Sarah Bringhurst
" I feel more in control of my emotions and I am much better at reinforcing boundaries. I get to actually be present with my family. I give myself a lot more grace, and I feel like my "brain fog' from depression has nearly cleared up. Everybody should come see Julie. " Rachel Pinto-Martin
I was referred to Julie St. Onge by a local therapist who mentioned that she was “her first pick” for who best to help me. I was in deep despair, pain, confusion...personal chaos going on in my life... I hit the jack pot with Julie!
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Meet Our Staff
Julie St.Onge Founder of New England Coaching Services LLC & The New England Betrayal Trauma Conference
BSN Rivier University
Registered Nurse
APSATS Certified
ACC World Coach Institute
cSASI certified
Brainspot Trained
Julie received her Bachelors in Nursing from Rivier University graduating Summa. Her experienced entails working in the following nursing fields over the course of 20 years:
Labor & Delivery, Post Partum, Surgical & Circulating, Walk in Clinic, Surgical Day Center, and School Nursing. Julie attended the World Coach Institute where she obtained her Life Coach Certificate. She is BrainSpot Trained and has completed all phases for certification. Julie is currently working with a few Brainspot trainers to advance the proposed model of brainspotting for hurting couples.
Julie is CSASI certified. Julie also Founder of The New England Betrayal Trauma Conference and New England Coaching Services. She has published Facilitating Disclosures: A Helpful Guide for Clinicians and Finding Healing Through The Betrayal Trauma Model for Covenant Eyes.
Julie heads up a team of eight coaches to facilitate disclosures, assist couples in the stabilization process, aid those struggling with addiction, and provide safety and stabilization for hurting partners.
“ I came to a place in life where I was not willing to accept good enough or not that bad… Don't give up on yourself and your soul's ability to heal no matter how complex the journey may be.”
Julie St.Onge
Andrea Rogers
Andrea Rogers, BS, MS, CPC-c is a Board Certified Life Coach who is passionate about helping people reach their full potential in life. She loves coming alongside men and women on the journey towards wholeness. Andrea has over 20 years experience working in developing people to become the best version of themselves. She is trained by APSATS using the MPTM (Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model) that was so instrumental in her own healing from betrayal trauma. Andrea is also a Bible teacher, a ministry leader and proud mom of 4 beautiful children.
Rebecca Maestas
PROFESSIONAL CREDENTIALS:
- I attended graduate school at New Mexico Highlands University receiving a Master in Social
- Work, Clinical Practice. My undergraduate focus is in Psychology, receiving a BA in Psychology
- from Fort Lewis College, Durango Colorado.
- Licensed in the state of New Mexico as a Master of Social Work, clinical practice.
- Certified Clinical Partner Specialist (CCPS), specialized training (APSATS).
- Certified Personal Life Coach candidate (CPLCc),
- Professional Christian Coaching Institute (PCCI).
- Certified SYMBIS Assessment Facilitator
- Pre-marital coaching and improving marriage relationships.
- Member of the American Association for Christian Counselors (AACC)
- Member of the International Coach Federation (ICF)
Providing HOPE & HEALING for Individuals & Couples Restoration after infidelity
You can wake up and find life has taken an unexpected turn. You’ve seen the warning signs; a rattling
noise in the engine that you’ve been meaning to have checked and suddenly you’re stranded at the side
of the road. Relationship issues can be just like this.
What areas of your life are you hoping would disappear, ignoring, or not even aware of?
Your heart shattered when you discovered the one person who you trusted and should have your back,
has betrayed you. You were gaslighted and lied to you repeatedly over the years just so he can keep his
secrets. You may be overwhelmed with guilt, shame, anger, and fear.
I know what that feels like, because I’ve been there too.
I hear your heart and you are not alone. I can help you navigate through the trauma of relationship
betrayal from spouse’s sex/porn addiction, infidelity, or compulsive sexual behavior. Together we will
find Safety and Stabilization, Hope and Healing.
I am a Licensed Clinical Therapist, Certified Clinical Partner Specialist, and Life Coach. I am trained in
trauma, attachment, and life crisis issues. I can help you discover who you are, what’s important to you,
and where you want to go from here.
I will walk along side you on the journey of Becoming You
Karla Summey
I am passionate about empowering people on their journey through difficult circumstances and relationships. I believe that pain can be an invitation to grow, and I provide a safe space for my clients to process their thoughts and emotions, and discover new things about themselves. I know what it feels like to be blind-sided by life, and I know what it feels like to be exhausted from trying too hard. I'd love to come alongside you and help you find a new framework for moving forward.
Coaching provides a focused 1:1 conversation that results in deeper self-awareness and an invitation to take action to reshape your life around that learning.
I value honesty, even when it's scary. I value faith, even when it's hard to trust. I value family, even when it's messy.
Judee Alvarado
As a graduate of Simmons University, Boston, former homeschooling mother of 5 beautiful children, mother "in love" of two daughters in law, and a soon-to-be son in law, grandmother of 2, former ballerina at The Boston Ballet, teacher, small business owner, Founder and Director of “Grace & Glory School of Dance” (classical ballet), Co-Founder, Co-Director, & Vice Principal of Straight “A” Academy Private HIgh School and Education Center (of Bedford, NH), proficient Spanish speaker and translator, ILCT trained Life Coach, ADOH Trained Peer Facilitator, and aspiring author, Judee brings an unusual combination of skills to the table.
As someone who has survived decades of domestic violence, ongoing betrayal, and deep trauma bonding, along with a myriad of life-threatening health crises, Judee has gained valuable insight into trauma recovery work and has fought a long,hard battle for her own heart, mind, and soul. She has an unusual mixture of intensity and humor that keep her clients focused on the sometimes grueling work of healing while providing them ample opportunity to laugh and to find lasting joy along the way.
She believes that a Loving God has placed a piece of His own precious heart into each person she works with, and experiences unparalleled joy as her beloved clients heal and grow, daring to explore their indescribable worth to God. She rejoices as they become equipped with a tool box full of powerful resources, helping them to live balanced, healthy lives, find the support they need, and set healthy boundaries, all while keeping soft, vulnerable, and open hearts.
Her areas of specialty include, but are not limited to, Complex-PTSD (from ongoing trauma due to mental, emotional, psychological and/or physical abuse/domestic violence), betrayal and abandonment, divorce, custody battles, trauma-induced chronic illness, deconstruction and reconstruction of faith, spiritual abuse (at home and in church), parenting issues, anxiety and depression, addiction, family relatoinships, medical trauma, post-abortion depression, and more…
She has worked with people of all ages, and especially enjoys working with young people with whom she inevitably comes to share a precious bond.
Her mantra is:
“I can do no great thing for God; I can only do small things with great love…”
Saint Therese, the “LIttle Flower” of the “LIttle Way”
Amy Nagy, CPLC, CPC-c
I am a grateful follower of Jesus Christ, a mother to 4 beautiful children, and a homeschooling parent of 15 years. My passion for Life Coaching was born out of my own trials, and the Lord placed a fire in my heart to use what I had been through to help other people.
One of my greatest passions is to help people learn how to break free from strongholds and move into vibrant living. I specialize in working with people struggling with sex addiction, and their partners who have been deeply impacted by betrayal trauma.
I approach my coaching from this same holistic viewpoint that I adopted to move toward my own greater wellbeing. I provide support, guidance, and encouragement to help you examine the areas of life that are out of balance, get to the root of what is holding you back, break free from those strongholds, and move forward on your journey towards vibrant wellbeing.
It is my heart and passion to journey with clients as they move out of paralysis and into recovery and FREEDOM!
Janae Ledbetter
· ACSTH (ACC path) Certified Life Coach with the World Coaching Institute
· CFSAS trained (peer facilitator)
· BFA from Ball State University with a focus in pottery
I believe healing can come to all who seek it. My goal is to come along side those that seek healing as they process the reality that their marriage has not been what they thought it was and that their spouse has changed the rules.
I have had life drop me to my knees and have been through some very dark days but have made it to the other side. In my darkest of days after finding out about the reality of my marriage I personally experienced the benefits of coaching and know the power of healing that can come when surrounded by the right support system. After journeying through the discovery and struggle with SSA (same sex attraction) in my marriage, I realized my personal self-worth was not defined by the outcome of his struggle. And now by the grace of God, I am finding purpose in helping others on their journey to healing.
I have walked in your shoes and I understand your pain; it would be my honor to partner with you as you journey out of the darkness and into the light.
Ellia Marcum
Coaching, Brainspotting, and Mentoring Credentials
Certified Professional Coach (World Coach Institute) C-SASI Sex addiction peer facilitator Certified Certified Mental Health Coach (LightUniversity) Youth, Parent, Family Certified Coach (World Coach Institute) Trained in Brainspotting
Ellia uses her first-hand experience, pr
Coaching, Brainspotting, and Mentoring Credentials
Certified Professional Coach (World Coach Institute) C-SASI Sex addiction peer facilitator Certified Certified Mental Health Coach (LightUniversity) Youth, Parent, Family Certified Coach (World Coach Institute) Trained in Brainspotting
Ellia uses her first-hand experience, professional knowledge, and skills to support individuals healing from betrayal trauma, mental wellness, and various life crises. Through a multi-dimensional, somatic, and trauma-informed approach, Ellia I able to help a wide variety of issues. She is a mother of 5 and a homeschooling homesteader. Located in Missouri, hailing from Indiana, Ellia LOVES to travel and read. Her faith and love for Jesus are what fuel this practice, continuous training, and keep the prices affordable.
Mary Ellen Brown
Mary Ellen Brown CPC, ELI-MP, BRE/C, APSATS-CPC CERTIFIED PROFESSIONAL COACH ENERGY LEADERSHIP INDEX – MASTER PRACTITIONER BACHELOR RELIGIOUS EDUCATION/COUNSELING
APSATS CERTIFIED PARTNER COACH BRAINSPOTTING PRACTITIONER
Mary Ellen is a Certified Professional Coach (CPC) and Energy Leadership Index-Master Practitioner (ELI- MP) through iPEC– the Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching. She holds a bachelor’s degree in religious education and counseling and is a member of the International Coaching Federation. Mary Ellen is a Certified Partner Coach with APSATS, the Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists. She has completed additional training in betrayal trauma, therapeutic disclosures, nouthetic counseling and couple-centered recovery coach training. She is A Door of Hope-trained Peer Group Facilitator and has facilitated weekly groups for partners dealing with betrayal trauma for the last four years. Mary Ellen is passionate about providing safety throughout the recovery process so clients can experience healing and growth in their personal lives. She encourages those she works with to embrace their core values, principles and beliefs so they can make the best decisions for their own recovery. In Mary Ellen’s own words, “The human spirit will rise and take hold of opportunities that come when given the right support, encouragement and tools needed for their personal recovery and empowerment. With this empowerment, clients are inspired to live life with passion and fulfill a life of purpose.”